Relationships How to tell a friend they've upset you without making things awkward Addressing conflict with a friend can feel aggressive or uncomfortable. As tempting as it is to hide behind technology, bring up your concerns in person — it cuts down on the amount a friend has to infer from your words and reduces miscommunication. So there I was, alone at home practicing the very words I wanted to utter that afternoon over lunch, uncertain that I'd have the courage to make it happen.
Except for my boyfriend of three and a half years. When he makes me the slightest bit rattled, he knows it — immediately. I have no problem voicing my concerns someghing an assertive — and sometimes borderline aggressive — tone.
But why is that so hard to do with my friends? Shannon Kalberg, a d marriage and family therapistexplains that addressing difficult issues in friendships can be tricky.
However, being vulnerable and honest with a friend about their flaws can create a stronger bond if it is done with care and respect. Related Saying goodbye How to cope when a friend breaks up with you Elena Jackson, a d professional counselor and a d mental health counselor, says that people usually have a long history of pain related to friendships. Consider the repetition of aomething advice 'play nicely with your friends.
I knew I needed a game plan to confront this friend without things getting awkward, aggressive or fueled by pure anger. Was it something that was done? Or maybe your friend keeps doing this over and over again. It's important to be very specific and address only one incident at a time so that your friend has clarity.
But [it's] a secondary emotion Generally we use the term 'angry' as a blanket emotion. But anger is a secondary emotion.
If your friend was gossiping about you, perhaps you feel hurt. If your friend criticized you, perhaps you might be feeling sad.